Deception Tips Video 101 — Signs Of Deception
Hey guys, my name is Spencer Coffman, thank you for watching the Deception Tips videos. They’re all about teaching you how to read people and detect deception so that you will be able to tell if someone is lying to you. Today, we are on our final deception tip, this is a great tip, it’s something that we’ve talked about many times throughout all of these episodes.
I’ve mentioned it over and over again but this one, we’re dedicating a tip to it because it is very, very important. So, here it is, this is Deception Tip number 101. Learn to recognize the signs of deception and remember to watch for clusters of behavior. Liars always display more than one sign. This is very, very important. As you’re going through, you’re reading people, you’re detecting deception, there is a huge battle in the conscious and unconscious of anyone who is lying, remember that.
Their conscious is self-serving, it wants to get away with things, it wants the easy way out, it wants to escape. Their unconscious is truthful, it does the right thing and so they’re battling head-to-head. What happens is the conscious can consciously put on a mask or fake things and just let it go. The unconscious can’t, it’s behind, it’s behind the scenes, so what can it do?
The only thing it can do is try to sneak things out between the conscious and it leaks these signs of deception all over the place. We’ve talked about them, they’re on the head and the neck, the arms, the legs, the fingers, in speech, on the face, everywhere. It may be with the fingertips, touching the eyes, feet, legs, all over, we’ve talked about several of them.
You can use any of the tactics to try to get them a little bit more frustrated, but the main thing is to remember that the unconscious is exactly that, it’s unconscious. Therefore, it’s behind the scenes, it’s working to push the truth out through the cracks and that’s what you’re looking for. You’re looking for these signs of deception, these patterns of behavior, these clusters of behavior that fit together.
Folding arms may not mean defensiveness, it may mean simply that oh, they’re cold. However, if they’re folding their arms, they’re crossing their legs, they’re leaning back, they’re hunched over, they’re turning away, that’s a pattern, that’s a cluster. They may be being withholding or defensive, so you need to watch for these.
We talked about this before, check out the card here, it’s in Deception Tip number seven long ago with Clusters of Behavior. It’s something that you’ve got to watch for, you need to pay attention to because if someone is lying there will always be more than one sign, I guarantee it. The reason is because the unconscious is truthful and will keep pushing to get the truth out, it will keep leaking those signs for someone else to pick up.
Up until now, you seeing that leak has been unconscious, because the unconscious knows the truth but your unconscious, you haven’t been paying attention to it. Now you’ve started learning these unconscious behaviors and you’ve taken them and moved them into the conscious, so you’re bringing the unconscious to the conscious. When you see these unconscious behaviors displayed by other people, you know what they are because you have learned them, and you can see them and pick up on them.
You’ve brought them to your conscious and you can call them out on their lies and know when someone is lying to you, you will not be hurt by their lies anymore. Remember there will always be more than one sign, watch for patterns and clusters of behavior, review these tips as many times as you can, make them a part of your conscious, comment, ask questions, always keep learning.
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Until next time.